ADHD & Neurodivergent-Affirming Therapy in NYC

ADHD and neurodivergent-affirming therapy in Brooklyn and Queens, NY for adults and couples experiencing overwhelm, executive functioning challenges, emotional regulation struggles, shame, and relationship conflict. A trauma-informed, relational approach supports self-understanding, nervous system regulation, and building relationships that fit you.

If you’ve spent years feeling like you’re trying harder than everyone else just to keep up — forgetting things, falling behind, struggling to stay organized, or questioning your worth — this isn’t a personal failure.

It may be ADHD or neurodivergence.

For others, the struggle shows up in relationships. Conversations turn into arguments. One partner feels overwhelmed and responsible for everything, while the other feels criticized, misunderstood, or perpetually “not enough.” You may love each other deeply and still feel stuck in the same painful loop.

Neurodivergence isn’t something to fix.

It’s something to understand.

You don’t have to keep blaming yourself.

You don’t have to keep fighting each other.

Why Does It Feel Like You’re Trying Harder Than Everyone Else Just to Keep Up?

Quick Facts:

Who It’s For: Adults with ADHD or other forms of neurodivergence, and neurodivergent couples navigating communication, organization, and relationship stress

Common Concerns: Executive functioning difficulties, chronic overwhelm or burnout, trouble initiating or completing tasks, forgetfulness leading to shame, low self-esteem, emotional regulation struggles, social anxiety, and repeating conflict cycles in relationships

Approaches Used: Neurodivergent-affirming therapy, trauma-informed care, relational therapy, psychodynamic therapy, mindfulness-based practices, somatic work, executive functioning support, and emotional regulation tools

Therapy for Anxiety

ADHD and neurodivergence shape how you think, feel, relate, and move through the world. When those differences go unrecognized or unsupported, they often turn into shame, self-doubt, and conflict.

What Does ADHD and Neurodivergence Feel Like?

For individuals, this can look like:

  • Difficulty with time management and follow-through

  • Chronic overwhelm or burnout

  • Trouble initiating or completing tasks

  • Forgetfulness that leads to shame or self-criticism

  • Low self-esteem despite intelligence and capability

  • Feeling “behind” or like you’re always catching up

  • Struggles with emotional regulation

  • Social anxiety or relational insecurity

For couples, this often shows up as:

  • Repeating the same arguments without resolution

  • One partner feeling like the “manager” or parent

  • The other partner feeling constantly criticized or inadequate

  • Emotional dysregulation escalating conflict

  • Misunderstandings across different thinking styles

  • Loss of trust or emotional safety

If any of this resonates, you’re not broken. Your nervous system and brain are working differently and they deserve support, not judgment.

Therapy for Anxiety

How Does ADHD and Neurodivergent-Affirming Therapy Help?

ADHD is not just about attention. It affects self-worth, relationships, emotional regulation, and how you experience yourself in the world.

  • How ADHD impacts your daily life and relationships

  • Where self-esteem was shaped by misunderstanding or invalidation

  • How emotional overwhelm develops — and how to regulate it

  • What systems and supports actually help you function

  • How to move toward what Marsha Linehan calls “a life worth living”

  • For couples, how to build a relationship worth fighting for

In our work together, we’ll explore:

Therapy for Anxiety

What Is Neurodivergent-Affirming Therapy?

We take a neurodivergent-affirming, trauma-informed, and relational approach that meets you where you are.

For Individuals

We blend insight, practical support, and emotional work to help you understand yourself with compassion.

Our work includes:

  • Psychoeducation to explain how your brain functions

  • Support with executive functioning and self-efficacy

  • Exploring how past experiences shaped self-esteem

  • Emotional regulation tools that work for neurodivergent brains

  • Mindfulness practices adapted for ADHD

  • Space to grieve, accept, and integrate your differences

    The first step is always this:

    There is nothing wrong with you. There is something different — and that difference deserves understanding and accommodation.

For Couples

Neurodivergent couples often struggle not because they don’t care — but because they’re speaking different emotional and cognitive languages.

In couples therapy, we focus on:

  • Understanding each partner’s inner experience

  • Identifying how ADHD contributes to conflict cycles

  • Reducing blame, resentment, and misinterpretation

  • Rebuilding trust and emotional safety

  • Learning how to negotiate differences rather than fight them

  • Helping non-ADHD partners release the role of “caretaker”

  • Helping ADHD partners feel respected, not managed

The goal isn’t to make you the same — it’s to help you understand each other deeply enough to work as a team.

We are not here to make you fit a mold. We are here to help you build a life, and relationships that fit you.

Local and Virtual Sessions Available

We offer ADHD and neurodivergent-affirming therapy in person both at my Williamsburg office as well as my office in Ridgewood Queens, serving clients in neighborhoods like Bushwick, Park Slope, Brooklyn, and Crown Heights.

If you’re not able to make the commute or prefer the comfort of your own space, We also offer secure telehealth therapy throughout New York State.

How ADHD and Neurodivergent Therapy Works

1. Consultation

Start with a free 15-minute phone consultation to talk through what’s been feeling difficult and determine fit.

2. Understanding Patterns

Early sessions focus on how ADHD or neurodivergence shows up in executive functioning, emotional regulation, self-esteem, or relationship dynamics.

3. Skill Building and Support

Therapy includes psychoeducation, executive functioning strategies, emotional regulation tools, mindfulness-based and somatic practices, and relational work when needed.

4. Relationship Work (If Applicable)

For couples, we explore conflict patterns, communication differences, and rebuilding trust in ways that feel sustainable.

5. Integration

The focus shifts toward building systems, relationships, and routines that align with how your brain works.

Why Choose Neurodivergent-Affirming Therapy at MindfulSelf?

Our approach is informed, integrative, and nonjudgmental. We understand that creatives often process the world with heightened sensitivity, deep emotional nuance, and unique internal rhythms.

  • Psychodynamic therapy to explore your inner world and self-narratives

  • Mindfulness-based practices to help you reconnect to the present moment

  • Somatic work to support nervous system balance and embodied healing

  • Relational therapy to address how connection (or disconnection) is shaping your sense of safety and belonging

What we will draw from:

We’re not just therapists, we’re collaborators in your self-discovery, here to support your voice, vitality, and creative integrity.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • No. Many clients explore neurodivergence through therapy before or without a diagnosis.

  • Therapy is a wonderful place to start or continue your healing process. The first 3-4 sessions are usually focused on getting to know you, your history, your presenting concerns and collaborate on a treatment plan. From there, we move at your own pace and start to unpack whatever you bring into session.

  • Both. We combine understanding, emotional work, and practical support.

  • In person and virtual sessionl are both available but are the in-person slots are limited. Please inquire if you’d like in person to see if any in-person sessions are open.

  • There is a 48 hour cancellation policy. f you cancel with less than 48 hours' notice, or do not show up for your session, you will be charged the full session fee. We will always do my best to try and reschedule you within the same work week to avoid this, but it may not always be possible.

How to Start

If you’ve been living with insomnia for so long that it feels like your “normal,” you deserve to know it doesn’t have to stay this way.

ADHD & Neurodivergent Therapy can help you rebuild your confidence, your rhythms, and your sense of calm.

We invite you to:

Book a free 15-minute phone consultation

Ask questions about how therapy works

Tell us a little about your creative world, or nothing at all, we'll meet you wherever you are

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